In such a divisive world, one thing we can all agree on is the need for more compassion and more gratitude, both at work and in life. Even more so with the holiday season in front of us. And even more so still for entrepreneurs, who are often faced with so many difficult obstacles to grind through that gratitude may be all that saves a positive attitude.
And in all the things that entrepreneurs or any of us want for our children, like for them to do well in school or enjoy success in general (without perfectionism), there may be no desire more relevant today than the desire for our children to grow up grateful.
Easier said than done.
But researchers and authors Jeffrey Froh (Hofstra University) and Giacomo Bono (California State University) have developed concrete, scientifically-based strategies for encouraging gratitude in children.
Suffice it to say, it’s worth the effort.
Research shows that when children exhibit gratitude, it’s the behaviour that most closely correlates with life satisfaction and happiness for that child. It’s also linked to less stress and depression and more optimism. Again, by the way, critical attributes to develop for any budding young entrepreneur that has a slog ahead of them in a future venture.Â
To round it out, with gratitude comes more engagement in school and the surrounding community, better social support offered and received, and less envy and materialism exhibited by the child.
Here’s how you get to cultivating gratitude among your kids.
1. Role model gratitude and teach your kids to think gratefully.
Express gratitude often–by speaking it, writing it, gifting it. And do so consistently, as a value of yours. My wife and I have elevated expression of gratitude to the level of a personal value in hopes of further imprinting our daughter. Sometimes we even see signs that it’s working.
You can help your child think gratefully by encouraging him/her to consider the benefits they get from others’ kindness and gestures, and what those acts cost the giver.
2. Be present and empathetic with your child.
Spending time with your children is, of course, good. Spending time when you’re fully present, enjoying each moment, and ready to express empathy and understanding is priceless. It’s something I continually work on and is the single thing I’m most proud of improving about myself (although there’s still plenty of room to get better). Froh and Bono say empathy is “the most important emotion for developing gratitude.”
3. Encourage autonomy.
Experiencing independence breeds appreciation in the child for all the support he/she is already receiving. They’re thus more likely to express that appreciation outwardly. Note that autonomy includes curbing the child’s social-media use to lessen the likelihood they’ll experience diminished self-appreciation.
4. Nurture their strengths.
Doing so builds confidence. Confidence builds self-appreciation, which makes it easier to see and appreciate things around you (as you’re not busy combating feelings of inadequacy). You can even encourage your children to directly use strengths (like writing, speaking well, being kind-hearted) to show gratitude.
5. Encourage them to accumulate growth, not gadgets.
Materialistic goals, when met, rarely lead to genuine gratitude (unless, perhaps, the goal was met through a generous gift from someone else–in which case, the child should be encouraged to express thanks).
When you encourage a child to focus on developing deeper connections with people or the community and on pursuing experiences that pique their interest and help them achieve growth, it’s much more likely to foster gratitude. My wife and I encourage experiences over things and we’re convinced it has helped our daughter to appreciate in a more visceral way.
6. Give them a hand in lending helping hands.
Encourage your child to look for opportunities to help others, again role modeling it yourself as a closely held value. This is one of the most direct routes possible towards encouraging gratitude.
7. Help them find what matters to them.
When kids find something that’s important to them, something bigger than themselves, (like a social issue, cause, or form of service), they realize they’re a player in something more important. Gratitude comes from an appreciation of that larger picture and what they can do to affect it.
As parents, we can only do so much to imprint our children the way we want. Then, we turn them loose on the world. But one thing’s for sure. Engraining gratitude will be one thing they’ll always be thankful for.
Even if they don’t think to thank you.
From: Thrive Global
